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SOS – YOUR CHILD’S CRY FOR
HELP
For Parents Only by Melody Jensen
This month take more time to
touch and appreciate more! Your children will mirror you later in
life in their adult relationships. Children who don’t receive love
through touching and appreciating will fear intimacy later in
life. If you want your child to be a loving parent in their adult
life, they learn this from you and your example. Remember what goes
around in the circle of life comes around. Showing appreciation
through those warm hugs and kisses will give the security and confidence
to your children that they need to explore positive, proactive
relationships in the future. (In box) Every time your child leaves you or
returns home, make it a family policy no matter how late in the evening it
is, or how old they are, you both exchange a big hug to show your
appreciation and love!
Email Melody to nominate an individual for the
monthly Spotlight On Parents column at mjtlccollection@gmail.com. I want
to recognize the unique parents who have been an excellent example
in life to others of being an outstanding parent in a particular
situation. Also if you have some excellent tips on parenting you
want to share with us, please feel free to email
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ImageProfile.tv Parent Spotlight On Jim Sealy, (single)
Dallas, Texas
I met Jim about four years ago and my
heart went out to him! Jim is an attractive single parent who has
developed more patience and unconditional love towards his children than
anyone I know. He has suffered a great tragedy and long suffering
through his two children Jimmy and Kristina who are ages 14 and
12. Both his children suffer from two different health challenges,
cerebral palsy & ADD-LD. His little girl has had several
operations, been in the hospital over 6 times in the last year, at 3-6
weeks per time. She suffers daily with chronic bilious vomiting
attacks and a poor immune system. With Jimmy having ADD-LD and
borderline manic depression, it is very challenging for Jim to help Jimmy
with his self worth and self-esteem because Kristina consumes so much of
his time. Helping Jimmy with his emotional state is difficult for Jim
because of the medical challenge with Kristina. He always has a great
attitude and perseveres through his daily challenges. He is a
hardworking father trying to build his own Adv-Tech 2000
telecommunications business, www.Atech200.com. He is presently CEO
and juggling family and career. I want Jim to know that the love
& effort that he puts forth into being a loving parent is a shining
example of true parenthood! The next time you find yourself moaning,
groaning and complaining about your struggles at being a parent, say to
yourself; It could always be worse and Thank God Daily for your healthy
loving children.
Thanks Jim, for your great
example to me! We at ImageProfile.Net want to honor you and pay our
respects to you for your excellent example of parent hood. We truly
admire you!
by S.H.
Jacob, Ph.D. Author of Your Baby’s Mind
(Bob Adams Publishers,
1992)
A series dedicated to society’s
most precious possession – newborns.
In this series I
will explore the fascinating world of newborns – what they already know,
how they adapt and learn, and what we – as parents, grandparents, and
significant others – can do to give them the start they deserve. Only forty years
ago, experts thought of newborns as helpless, incompetent creatures that
came to this world unprepared, passive, and unintelligent. The
impression was that newborns were blank slates passively awaiting
experience to etch its marks on them; to be molded and shaped as if they
were nothing more than raw material. They saw them as empty receptacles
waiting to be filled with skill and knowledge, which had to literally be
force fed into them. And it was thought that the best way to do that was
through language, repetition and drill. Jean Piaget, a pioneer in
child development, changed all that. He insisted that babies (and all
learners for that matter) are active beings who come to this
world with a myriad of abilities that are designed to expand their grasp
of the world of things, people, and language. He showed how his own
three children – as babies—formed concepts as they interacted with
objects and solved practical problems, which he had deliberately posed
to them. All along, Piaget tested his own ideas about how infants and
very young children form knowledge by meticulously observing, recording,
testing and rerecording his observations. Research on infants around
the world has confirmed Piaget’s observations as being universal. For
some time now, we’ve known that infants, the world over, develop in the
same order; that is, they pass through stages, one stage at a
time, no matter what culture we examine. Yet, the rate of
intellectual development varies depending on the type of experience
babies have during those critical early years. The 1960’s and 1970’s saw a
sudden surge of research into what and how babies know. Since then,
psychologists have improved their techniques for studying newborns and
how parents interact with them. The result is a picture that says three
things: (a) newborns are much more intelligent than we ever thought
they’d be, (b) they can learn things quickly and easily if only we knew
what to do and when to do it, and (c) what makes them unique is the type
of experience they have in the critical early years. From the moment of birth,
babies are unable to function in remarkable ways. Babies are born with a
functional set of reflexes (motor system) and perceptions (sensory
system) that serve them extremely well. Not surprisingly, these
sensori-motor systems enable them to adapt to the world around them in
some limited yet functional ways. Let’s now take a panoramic view of the
landscape of a newborn’s world of knowledge and know-how – what he knows
about people, language and things.
WHAT
NEWBORNS KNOW ABOUT
PEOPLE
A
Dr. Seuss Story
Newborns only 2 to 3
days old show a preference for the mother’s voice and turn their head in
the direction of the voice. Could it be that they learn mom’s voice
while still in the womb, or are they such fast learners that they learn
it in the first day or two of life? In 1980, DeCasper and Fifer
reported a fascinating study, which answered this question. Newborns,
only two days old, were placed comfortably on their backs with headsets
on their ears. A pacifier, geared to a tape player, was placed in their
mouths. When the baby sucked at a certain rate, the tape played his
mother’s voice reading a Dr. Seuss story. If the baby varied his sucking
rate, the tape would continue to play the Dr. Seuss story, only this
time he would hear it being read by a different woman. Over 85% of the
babies tested adjusted their sucking rate so that they could hear their
own mother’s voices. When the experimenters changed the rate at which the baby could
hear the mother’s voice, the babies quickly adjusted their sucking rate
to hear her voice again. What an impressive display of learning
ability? What’s
even more impressive is that newborns were able to start a new session
where they had left off the previous session! This suggests that they
have developed a practical memory – they could remember yesterday’s
experience! You
might argue that since the mother’s carry the babies for nine months or
so, the babies had a chance to hear the mother’s voices much more than
the father’s.Or,
Perhaps newborns learned their mother’s voice in the first two days of
life, before the experiment was conducted. To find out whether the
babies had learned their mother’s voices in those two days after birth
or whether they got used to it while they were still in the womb,
experimenters recruited the fathers. In 1984, Kolata repeated the
experiment with the Dr. Seuss story, only this time with the father’s
voice and another man’s voice reading it. From the moment of birth,
babies were handed over to their fathers who talked to them all the
time, sometimes for 1o hours at a time, for two to three days. The
babies heard no one else except their father’s voice during this time.
The result: babies showed no preference for their father’s voices. Since
the human ear develops well enough to hear at 7 months after conception,
these fascinating experiments suggest that the fetus learns his mother’s
voice and develops a preference for it well before he is
born. In my next
article, I will continue our intriguing journey into the world of a
newborn’s mind by sharing with you other fascinating experiments on what
the newborn knows about people.S.H. Jacob, Ph.D.
Time, Touch and
Tenderness: The Basics of Infant Care
by Jan
Cavanagh, R.N.
Once upon a time, long ago,
high in the mystical mountains of a land far away lived a group of kind
and gentle gorillas. One day while they were foraging for berries, they
came upon a small baby girl. The gorillas watched the baby from a
distance, making grunts of wonder, as she whimpered and cried. Suddenly,
one of the bolder females ambled toward the small, helpless human. As
their eyes met, the little infant began to coo and smile at the dark
face so intensely observing her. The tiny arms and legs flailed
excitedly and the gorilla, with a natural ease, picked up the baby and
carried her back to the group.No one really knows for sure how
this story ended. It is said by the ancient ones that the baby lived
with the gorillas until one day, she was found by her own kind. It is
also said that this baby grew up to have special gifts. She radiated
love, gentleness and goodwill to all who knew her. Always an example of
unconditional love, she honored and trusted the language of light held
within her own heart. This beautiful young woman was at peace and, as
the sun caresses the earth, she moved joyfully to forgive and love all
beings. The ancient ones also add, as they tell this story to their
children, that it was the baby’s adventure with the gorillas that gave
her these extraordinary gifts.There are simple and valuable
lessons that our friends in the animal kingdom can teach us. Time, touch
and tenderness are the basics of these lessons. If we strip away all the
material objects and endless paraphernalia that we are told our infants
need, and instead reach inside of ourselves, we find it just so happens
that time, touch and tenderness are the critical basic needs for human
infants as well… and the marvelous truth is: we have the ability to give
these gifts without spending a penny. Just like Dorothy and the Wizard
of Oz, we have the ruby slippers on already-we just need to use
them.Click Heals
Once – Time. Giving your time, as much of it as you can possibly
give, allows your infant to develop a sense of trust – a knowing that
you were there for him/her no matter what.Click Heals Twice – Touch. Your frequent touch, through holding, feeding, carrying, bathing and
massaging, allows your infant to develop a sense of safety and security.
Your touch provides the glue that will bond your infant closely to
you.Click Heals
Thrice – Tenderness. Your consistent tenderness in voice, body
language and action will build a loving environment, one in which your
infant will continually flourish and grow to reach his/her maximum
potential.So like
Dorothy, we as parents must realize that we already have within us what
our infants need most. When we feel we are losing our way, we can either
click our heals and realize we are already home, or refer to our animal
friends and the tender care they give their infants.
Biography of Jan
Cavanagh
Jan Cavanagh is a Registered Nurse,
a Certified Infant Massage Instructor and the mother of two grown
children. Her love of children prompted her to become the facility nurse
of a residential children’s shelter, where she worked with over 800
children for nearly 5 years. Presently, Jan is teaching Prenatal and
Parenting Classes at a regional hospital in Logan, Utah, as well as
instructing parents in the loving art of infant massage
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